6 Types of Toxic People to Avoid in Your Life- Spot, Stop and Cut-off (4 Mins Read)

Toxic people are everywhere, and we are no exception to them. We all have at least one or two such people in our social circles. We may live with them, work with them, or even have them in our coterie, but they are difficult to spot. Therefore, it becomes all the more important to identify various types of toxic people in our lives who will surely poison your life.

They are not only one of the biggest challenges but also a major impediment in your life progress. It’s important to realize how destructive and draining they can be. While cutting such people off by looking out for some specific signs of toxic people will mean less negativity, it also will bring much-needed positivity around you. This also means, we are more effective in channelizing our focus on forming more meaningful relationships at work and in our personal lives — we definitely deserve to have people in your life whom we enjoy spending time with.

Just like toxins in the air, we need to limit our exposure to such people and keep ourselves protected at all times to be more productive and focused. Stay away from toxic people as they will never be worth your time and energy.

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People either inspire you or drain you off. So, choose them wisely ― Hans F. Hasen

The first critical step is to detoxify our lives, by understanding and spotting a toxic person. Such people, unfortunately, do not come with a warning label, but there are things you can look for.

6 types of Toxic People to Spot, Stop and Cut off

1. The Vampire

Such people are most common of the lot and most dangerous. They use you either emotionally or financially (or both), and suck the best out of you and bleed you completely dry.

Financially toxic people drain our resources and more often than not our hard-earned cash. While emotionally toxic people use you emotionally to get their work done and get something tangible out of you. They use manipulation tactics to suck time, energy, and moolah out of you under the façade of friendship without giving you anything in return.

They may also be called parasites, creepers, or climbers. They feed on you emotionally and mentally, and may even exploit you. They may even lie, exaggerate, or twist original verdicts to serve their own selfish motive. They are tricky to deal with and very well know your likes and dislikes. The exactly know how to deal with you and use this information as a part of their hidden agenda.

“If you really love me, you will not question me”, sounds quite familiar right? This is exactly how emotional manipulation may start.

2. The Cactus

The cactus is the jealous lots in our lives and are incredibly toxic. These cacti are always jealous of your success both professionally and personally. The moment they spot a lacuna or a chance to show you down they will not miss this opportunity and bring you down. They cannot be happy for anyone and typically their jealousy will come out as criticism, or gossip. Be watchful and save yourself before they sting you with their thorns.

3. The Chameleons

There are many people in our lives who come barging our doors with all pretentious love and care, especially, when we have something tangible that they are looking to extract from us. It is quite possible they may even succeed in fooling us with their sweet smile & ostentatious affection, which will typically last only till our stock will last.

They are the frogs of the rainy season. Such Social Chameleons, are difficult to spot as they may hypnotize with you with their flamboyant charm which is only co-terminus with their camouflage. The interesting fact is that when you approach them, when in need, they are nowhere to be found. Yes, you are ghosted! Time to ghost them back.

4. The Bossy Bobs

We all have those Bossy Bobs in our lives who love to control us. Such people are not difficult to recognize.

Here are a few traits of such people to look out for

• They know what your problem is before you know them
• They cannot withstand any other opinion which is not in line with their own
• They get angry when you do not follow they're advise
• They have personal rules which they expect you to follow
• They do not see themselves as controlling
• They attempt to undermine your confidence by making jabs at you either in private or public.
• They try to change you
• They may even gaslight you

You are merely a tool or a puppet in their hands, whom they love to maneuver and control to satisfy their self-esteem and massage their inflated egos. As long as you are under their claws, you are good to go, but as soon as you rebel the deal is over. Watch out for such bullies.

5. The Brokers

Such people are all about to give and take in all their social dealings. They provide one good in order to get another as a quid pro quo and always expect something in return. Their relationship is always conditional and they want to earn a commission for giving you something. Sexual favors in lieu of promotion, or casting couch in the film industry is an apt example.

We all have such dealers in our day to day life and they can be easily spotted if you look closely. They are not your true friends so keep your association limited without expecting any free help.

6. The Sympathy Addicts

We come across attention seekers quite often in our lives. They are a reservoir of drama and conflict. Such people always seek sympathy from others, by showing themselves as a victim of emotional exploitation and how innocent they are.

The way cycle cannot hold without a stand, they cannot stand without your emotional support. They often suffer from low self-esteem, week mental strength, and have feeble personalities. They suffer from poor me syndrome so much that they get used to it and learn to live with it. They may indirectly trouble others with their attention-seeking attitude.

Such people may also treat you like punching bags or dumping bins and they feel it’s their right to hit you whenever they face turmoil in life. You are merely an “Agony Aunt” with all the life wisdom! But when it’s your turn to share your derailments, they are shut for business.

While such people do not come as toxic personalities immediately, they emotionally drain you and indirectly suffocate you with their never-ending problems which are apparently out of their control. It is important to schedule your time for your priorities in life rather than giving such people much of an encouragement.

I am sure few names must have already popped up in your mind while reading this article as to those who are toxins in your life. But don not get blown away and stand up for yourself and learn to say no. Let not such Toxic people, Toxic Friends, Toxic Family, or even Toxic Parents (in some rare cases) rob you of your happiness and peace of mind.

It is imperative to choose your coterie and your friends wisely as they not only motivate you in achieving your dreams but also can make or break you.

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Originally published at https://theeasywisdom.com on June 25, 2020.