Are you emotionally weak? 10 Signs of a weak-minded person!
A weak-minded person will be controlled by everything except his mind. When you know that you are worthy, you are likely to take steps that reflect your confidence, and you are in a good place. But if you are mentally weak, you invariably end up exhibiting a few traits that are typical to people who have a weak mindset. Read on to know more about these signs & tips to transform a weak mindset into a strong one. You may discover a few things about yourself.
Many people are mentally and emotionally stronger than others. Whereas some pretend to be mentally stronger than they actually are. But it is easy to spot the difference between a weak personality and a strong personality. There are a few clear signs of a weak-minded person that hints at a weak mindset.
The truth is that if you have a weak mindset, you won’t be successful. And therefore, it is important to be emotionally strong, mentally tough and become a strong personality to be victorious. No one respects a weak-minded person, and no one takes them seriously.
So if you are a weak personality, it is time to turn around the table and command respect by virtue of mental toughness. If you are weak, you won’t be recognized and won’t be able to accomplish your goals. And the first step to counter your weak mindset is to understand the traits that make you mentally weak. So are you emotionally weak? Here are a few signs of a weak-minded person!
10 Signs of a weak-minded person- Tips to transform a weak mindset into a strong one
- You blame others for your problems
Do you often blame others for your problems? Do you never take ownership of your mistakes? It is a major sign of a weak-minded person to hold others responsible for their life problems. Sometimes people are indeed to be blamed. But a mentally strong person does not obsess over the problems. They focus on the action and the solutions. Rather than focusing on whom to blame, they focus on how to fix the problem at hand.
|||||| Rather than sitting around and feeling sorry about your circumstances and how others have treated you, own up to your shortcomings, take responsibility and understand that life is not always fair.
2. You look for external validation
Seeking validations is okay till the time you are not overdoing it. Everyone loves to be appreciated and for doing a great job. I consider it an important step to gain confidence and feel proud to realize their full potential. But seeking constant external validation is something different. It hints towards deep-rooted insecurities, lack of confidence and lack of trust in your own choices. So what if people do not approve of you? Do you approve of yourself or not is what matters. You can deliver your choices based on the opinions of others.
|||||| Rather than seeking external validations, focus on your internal belief, trust your instincts and choices, and accomplish things. Trust your choice and believe that it will bring value to you and the world. If you do not trust your choice, no one else will! Validate your choices from within and not from external sources.
3. You are unable to stick to a goal or lack a larger purpose
Everyone has a few goals in life-personal goals and professional goals, and a larger purpose in life. Goals and purpose in life keep us motivated, focussed and committed. They act as a north star and guide us. A lack of goal and purpose in life shows a deficit in motivation to achieve something. And is a trademark sign of a weak-minded person.
Every person regardless of age or profession has a few goals that they are committed to. It is not the size of goal or purpose that matters but your determination that is being questioned here. Mentally strong people set their goals, work towards them, and accomplish things.
||||| Set your priorities, give them the shape of goals, set your life purpose and work towards achieving them. Start small and work towards it. Stick to your goals and be committed to achieving them. Once you accomplish a milestone, pat your back and work toward the next goal. Never give up!
4. You choose what is easy and what is not right
Weak personalities often succumb to peer pressure and go with the flow even if they know it is not right for them. They find easy options to pursue. It is a sign of a weak-minded person and a weak mentality. A weak-minded person also finds it difficult to say no to others. They want to come across as a nice and caring person who always say yes to please people.
Strong-minded people, on the other hand, know their priorities and understand their minds well. They know how to voice their opinion and do what is right for them.
|||| Instead of choosing the easy option, pick what is right for you. Focus on yourself and your wellbeing first. Learn to say when you do not want to say yes. Choose what is best for you, even it means choosing the longest route. Believe in yourself and your capabilities. Stand for yourself and find your voice. People will only respect you for your bravery, not for your cowardice.
5. You shy away from taking up the responsibility
Do you often shy away from owning up your actions and taking up the responsibilities that come with your life? Are you at a stage where you can venture out, earn for yourself and support others, but you run away from taking up the responsibility? Do you often rely on others like parents, siblings or friends to take care of you? Well if the answer is yes, it is a sign of a weak-minded person, and it speaks of your weak-mindedness and immaturity.
||||| Trust your abilities, venture out, face the unknown and deal with your life head-on. No one is responsible for taking care of you, but only yourself. In fact, you should grow up and take charge of your life. Take care of the people who are dependent on you rather than being dependent on them.
6. You embrace a victim mentality and indulge in self-pity
People are victims of past, circumstances and missed opportunities. And it is a real thing. But being a victim and embracing a victim mentality are two different things. A victim mentality is when you define your identity by victimhood and feel that nothing can change that.
Another obvious sign of a weak-minded person is self-pity. Weak-minded people feel sorry for themselves as they feel betrayed, resentful and let down for something that has happened. Self-pity is counter-productive and addictive. The more you practice it, the more real it becomes.
|||| Self-pity and victim mentality are signs of self-defeating behaviour. It is a vicious circle that yields nothing in the end. Mentally stronger people do not bother about self-pity and how they have been the victim of their past. So, rather than feeling sorry for yourself and your past, start working towards your future.
7. You obsess over your problems
Certain life decisions and situations often require deep thought and contemplation. But mentally weak people often put a lot of examination and overthinking in even simple matters. It shows that they lack decision-making capabilities, and they blame their situation or choice.
||||| Rather than obsessing over simple things and overthinking, put your cognition into meaningful actions and so something.
8. You hold onto resentment, refuse to forgive and move on
Most of us have all the reasons in this world to feel angry, cheated and wronged. No one is denying that. But holding on to resentment, not forgiving people in the past leads to impaired vision and cripples people.
|||| When it comes to forgiveness, you do it for yourself and not for others. And even if you are not able to forgive people, do not hold grudges and do your best to move on. Mentally strong people understand that forgiveness is the key to their freedom.
9. You escape and run away from your problems
Do you often run away from unpleasant situations or problems? Escapism in life occurs when you try to avoid something that you do not want to deal with. Sometimes we are genuinely hurt, and in order to heal, we avoid the person or situation that caused us the pain. But if you find yourself running away from the problems more often than not, it reflects a weak mindset. It means that you are trying to dissipate the negative feelings by the way of bypassing them rather than working upon them and dealing with them head-on. You are trying to escape the difficulties of your life or a person who is going to question you or an unpleasant situation via other diversions. And it is one of the major signs of a weak-minded person.
||||| Instead of running away from your problems, gather the courage and accept the reality. Believe in yourself, own up to your shortcomings and fix the problems by going to the root cause. Face the problems, fix them once and for all. Always remember that avoiding problems will only postpone them and not resolve them. Mentally strong people face their problems, resolve them and find a permanent solution rather than running away from them.
10. You can’t take criticism
Weak-minded people are extremely sensitive to any form of criticism, critic, or correction. And they are not open to any form of feedback. If someone gives them feedback and constructive criticism, they get offended and throw their angry backlash in return.
Such behaviour stems from low self-esteem and shows that the person is resistant to change and unwilling to improvise upon himself. And it is a clear indication that you are not a strong-minded person.
|||||| Understand that no one is perfect and everyone has shortcomings. Feedbacks and criticism are the best to get the reality check so that you can improvise and inculcate the necessary changes for betterment. Strong-minded people precisely do the same. They are open to criticism and feedback, listen to the critics patiently and then work upon themselves.
Okay, so I will be honest with you. I used to exemplify almost all the signs of a weak mindset. For years I hoped that someone would fix me, frame my life and make it great. For years I obsessed with petty things, scapegoated others, and held resentment. I spent substantial years of my life feeling sorry for myself. It took me a while to understand that I was procrastinating things and was shying away to take responsibility. I was busy pleasing others, and saying no did not come naturally to me.
It took me a while to realise these signs before I started working upon myself. I started small, changed my mindset, set my life goals and attached a purpose to my life. I learnt to forget my past and move on, learnt to overcome the victim mentality, and stayed true to myself. And now, I have embraced myself completely. I know my strengths and weaknesses and approach my life more productively and meaningfully.
I do not say that I have become perfect now, but yes, I have personally made a lot of advancements. I am no more defined by my past, the pain and disappointments.
To conclude this post here is what comes to my mind:
A strong person can help a weak-minded person only when the weak-minded person is ready to be helped. The weak person should be ready to help himself first and develop the strength to bring the transformation. Ultimately, no one but only himself can bring about the change.
So are you ready to break the barriers and turn things around?
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